Dealing with those lovely dramas that life throws at us!

Firstly my apologies for such a long time between this post and my last.  There has been a lot happening in my world and it’s been hard to get into the right mindset to concentrate on my blog.  But things are calming down now so I hope to resume business as usual for my readers and will concentrate on putting together some informative posts for you in the coming weeks.  Thank you for your patience and continued support.

So, events over the last few months have taught me that patience and compassion are vital in dealing with loved ones!  No matter how hard it seems sometimes, if you truly and unconditionally care about someone most issues can be overcome.     It has been challenging to say the least and at moments it felt like there must have been easier alternatives…. but as things improve and I can see the bigger picture I have to say that the choices I made, whilst by no means the easiest, feel like they were the right ones.

Whilst in the thick of it I saw a post on good old facebook that read along the lines of this: ‘It’s not the event that matters.  It’s what happens afterwards that counts’.  This has been something of a mantra to me in recent weeks and has allowed me to take a step back from the drama, try to look at things with a wider perspective, see the bigger picture.  We are all human and we are all fallible.  What makes us special is our capacity for compassion and ultimately forgiveness. 

If you are struggling with a life drama try to disengage yourself from it for a short time, put some distance between yourself and the emotionally charged situation.  If other people are involved have you considered things from their perspective and their reasons?  This is one of the hardest things to do when all you feel like is ranting and wallowing in anger, resentment, bitterness, self pity and whatever other negative emotions become all-consuming during such times.  However hard it might seem try and look at the situation from a third person point of view and just see if anything in your perception changes.  Even the slightest change can have an effect as it allows us to open our minds to the possibilities. 

Above all bear in mind that what you feel deep down is what matters.  By all means take others’ input on board and consider all viewpoints but remember that this is your life and ultimately you have the power within you to make yourself happy. 

Sometimes we have to be selfish and put our own needs first.  Those who truly love us will accept whatever decisions we make without question.